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Navigating the Desire for Casual Encounters Whilst Pursuing a Committed Partnership
As a gay man approaching 50, I’ve spent many, largely pleasurable years engaging in spontaneous encounters with other men since the age of 19. In my 30s, I was in a serious relationship which continued for a significant period, however I never felt completely content, in that I didn't experience love or sexually nourished. The fact is that my constant desire has been for casual sex. Whenever I begin seeing any man, when the initial excitement fades, I always get the urge to be intimate with other men once more.
Questioning the Possibility of Exclusive Commitment
I am now wondering if I’ll ever be able to sustain a monogamous relationship. I understand that many gay men have non-monogamous arrangements, yet from my observations, they have seemed like hard work, frequently causing lots of pain and jealousy for everyone involved. To a large extent, I want a partner to care for me while allowing me to pursue other intimacies, however I fear the emotional drain this might create. Should I just continue to have spontaneous encounters and acknowledge that a long-term relationship may be unattainable? I’m feeling somewhat confused.
Every person’s intimate path fluctuates. Try not to think about what you require in partnerships or your ability to tolerate different types of intimate connections as fixed. Your needs as you are experiencing them now could easily shift down the road; at a certain time you might become more decisive and discover greater understanding and a suitable route … or perhaps not. At some point you might meet someone offering a life-changing chance to you through mirroring your desires in a holistic fashion … and later on you may choose that casual connections suit you best. Worrying about the future and engaging in the “What if?” game is simply anxiety-based and a waste of your efforts. Aim to stay in the moment in your relationships, and recognize the value of every individual you connect with intimately a sexual connection. When and if the time is right to strengthen genuine closeness with one partner, you will know.
- Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a American psychotherapist who specialises in addressing intimacy issues.
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